ARL release the RED from its cage . His due date is over, you can't accuse him for haven't a PLJ and lock him up.
lower the water level so the aro wont freak out. when i get small aros, i fill the tank 50 % and have it in a smaller partition until its eating well. too much space will scare the fish and cause it not to eat properly.
try some night crawler. I feed my aros with worms everytime they go on a strike and they seem to take them up all the time.
or try stay still in front of the tank for 10-15 min let the aro calm down then try to feed it.
PLJ or not its still your baby. Nothing is perfect, so dont look at the ugly side, but try to view its other features...